Monday, August 15, 2011

What should I do about the dogs after the relationship?

I went through something similar, the whole dog back-and-forth went on and on, and then when I met my now-husband, I called my ex and told him the truth: I met someone, I don't want him to feel awkward about me spending time with my ex while caring for the dogs, and I needed a more final resolution. He decided to keep the dogs himself. I was really sad... but in a way, because I had met my true love, it was easier than I thought it would be. After all, he loved the dogs, and cared for them well. I just couldn't bring myself to do it until I was ready. And when I met my hubby, it was time because I was ready to move on. My ex actually tried a couple of things like calling to talk "about the dogs" when I knew it was really him testing to see if I was still hung up on him. I finally told him directly that I can't be emotionally invested in the dogs anymore, since they just reminded me of our old relationship and all its problems. That worked, and he left me alone. As far as meeting people, try setting small goals for yourself about getting out and having fun. Make yourself go places with friends! I also did get myself a fish. I know that sounds dumb, but I couldn't afford the time commitment for a puppy. I really loved that fish, lol. When you feel emotionally ready, it will be easier than you think. Good luck!!!

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